Mindfulness in Everyday Life


The practice of mindfulness is the repetitive act of directing your awareness to only one thing in the moment without judgement – this can be a focus on the breath as in traditional mindfulness practices, but it can also be an awareness and concentration on any given task from washing the dishes to tidying the house. It is all about concentrating on what you are doing – if washing the dishes, notice the feel of the bubbles, the smell of the soap, the sound of the water running. Bring your awareness to where you are in the moment, paying attention to what you are doing. If your mind wanders from the breath or from the object of your concentration, gently bring your awareness back to the breath or to the task in hand. The mind is like an untrained puppy. At first, you’ll find it wandering away, rummaging in boxes, chewing the furniture, and jumping on the sofa. But with training and practice, it is possible to quiet the mind and focus on the present moment. When you find your mind has wandered, bring your awareness back to breath, back to body, back to the sounds, sensations, and smells in the room. It takes time and patience to retrain your brain, just like it takes time and patience to train a puppy.

Mindfulness can be readily incorporated into your daily routine – you can mindfully brush your teeth, eat your breakfast, brush your hair, or wash in the shower. Notice how your body feels during these activities – use the senses of taste, touch, smell, sight, and sound. When you are in the shower, notice the smell of the shampoo, the sounds of the water running, the sensation of the water falling against your skin. Become aware of the shower – bring your attention fully to the task at hand. Notice the breath – the rising and falling sensation of the chest, the feeling of oxygen entering your body. Breathe into your body – feel the breath from the tips of your toes to the top of your head. When your mind has wandered, bring your attention back to the shower, back to the physical sensations, back to the feeling of the breath inside your body.

Mindfulness – “What” Skills
There are three key components of mindfulness – observation, description, and participation. Observation involves paying attention to the present moment by noticing the breath and the physical senses – what we see, hear, smell, taste, and touch. Observation also involves noticing thoughts and feelings – a thought as a thought, a feeling as a feeling. Not trying to change thoughts of feelings in any way, but notice them passing in the mind as leaves upon a stream or as clouds in the sky. Rather than trying to control emotions and thoughts, take a step back and notice them – observe thoughts passing in the mind, notice emotions rising and falling. Observation puts some distance between yourself and the thought or feelings – allowing you to notice them without getting caught up in them.

Describing simply involves putting words onto our observations by using simple factual statements – “the chair is made of metal”, “the shower feels warm”, “the umbrella is yellow”, “the breath is shallow”. It can be helpful to mentally say to yourself “thinking” or “feeling” as thoughts and feelings come and go in the mind. This adds a simple description to the thought or feeling – helping you to recognise and put some distance between yourself and the thought or emotion. You become the observer and describer of your thoughts and feelings. Noticing and labelling our thoughts and feelings allows us to step back a little, letting the thought or feeling come and go naturally.
   
Participating means throwing yourself completely into activities of the current moment – becoming fully absorbed by the breath or the task in hand. Participation is immersing oneself in the now – becoming one with the present moment. Children are naturally brilliant at participating, immersing themselves completely in play. It is a skill we tend to lose as adults and need to practice in mindfulness. Whatever you find yourself doing, devote yourself wholly to the task. If washing the dishes, become absorbed by the sound of the water running, feel the bubbles against your skin, notice the smell of the fairy liquid. Focus on what you are doing – participate fully in the task.
  
Mindfulness – “How” Skills
It is important to know how to practice mindfulness – non-judgementally, one-mindfully, and effectively. Taking a non-judgemental approach is key to developing mindfulness skills. Too often we are ready to criticise and make unkind judgments about ourselves and others. We are often most judgemental about ourselves – this can lead to a downward spiral of negatives thoughts and harmful behaviours. In mindfulness, it is important to be openminded and non-judgemental. This involves sticking to the facts of observation and description. Facts are not judgements. “I notice my breath”, “This chair is yellow”, “The shower is warm” – these are facts. “I’m not breathing properly”, “I hate yellow”, “This shower is pathetic” are judgements. In mindfulness, we stick to the facts and avoid judging ourselves or others.

It is also important to practice mindfulness one-mindfully. It is easy to get caught up multitasking – with our fingers in too many pies. Mindfulness ought to be one-mindful. This means being completely present in this one moment – doing one thing at a time. Notice the breath – concentrate wholly upon the breath. Notice the sounds of the shower, the smell of the soap, the feel of the water against the skin. In mindfulness, we attend fully to the breath or the task in hand. We become one with what we are doing.

Finally, it is important to practice mindfulness effectively – this means doing what works to achieve our goals. There are different ways to practice mindfulness – each participant must do what works for them. You may find it helpful to count the breaths as in the formal practice of mindfulness, or you may wish notice sounds in the room, to observe an object like a pebble or a seashell, to notice thoughts like clouds in the sky, or imagine yourself as the gatekeeper to your mind watching thoughts and feelings come and go, or notice physical sensations in your body scanning down from head to toe. You may wish to incorporate mindfulness into everyday life when washing the dishes, brushing your teeth, or driving the car. Do what works.

Mindfulness – observing, describing, and participating non-judgementally, one-mindfully, and effectively – can ‘keep us anchored safely in our bodies when the going gets tough. It can grow into a way of life that protects us from unnecessary suffering’ (Christopher Germer).

Recommended Reading  
Baer, Ruth, ‘Mindfulness Training as a Clinical Intervention: A Conceptual and Empirical Review’, Clinical Psychology: Science and Practice, 10, 2 (Summer, 2003), 125–43.
Germer, Christopher, The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion: Freeing Yourself from Destructive Thoughts and Emotions (2009).
Harris, Russell, ‘Mindfulness without Meditation’, HCPJ (October, 2009), 21–24.
Hayes, S. C. & Chad, Shenk, ‘Operationalising mindfulness without unnecessary attatchments’, Clinical Psychology: Science and Practice, 11, 3 (2004), 249–54.
Johnstone, Matthew, Quiet the Mind: An Illustrated Guide on How to Meditate (2012)
Kabat Zinn, Jon, Wherever You Go, There You Are (2004).
Stanton M, Dunkley C, ‘First Steps in Mindfulness Skills’, Nursing Times, 107, 6 (2011), 22–24.